Dealing with grief and loss

It could be losing a family member, spouse, pet, or leaving a family home. Whatever it is, grief and loss come in many forms and affect everyone differently.

You may have previous experience with these types of losses. It’s still incredibly important for you to get the help and support you need to deal with these difficult situations.

Grief can be a complex and difficult emotion to navigate. It's important to recognise and acknowledge the signs of grief to help manage and work through it.

5 common stages of grief

It’s important to remember the 5 stages of grief don’t always happen in order. These stages are:

• Denial – difficulty accepting the reality of the loss
• Anger – feeling frustrated or resentful about the loss
• Bargaining – wishing for a way to undo or change what has happened
• Depression – feeling sad, lonely, or hopeless
• Acceptance – beginning to find some peace and resolution with the loss, feeling more able to move forward with life

5 common signs of grief

There are several common signs that someone may be experiencing grief. These include:

• Confusion or forgetfulness
• Not wanting to eat as much, or losing weight without meaning to
• Seeming tired, sad, or irritable
• Difficulty sleeping, concentrating, and finding motivation
• Withdrawing from social activities and relationships

It's important to remember that grief affects everyone differently. Not all these signs will apply to every person.

Are you or is someone you know is struggling with grief? Seek support and care from a healthcare professional or a trained counsellor.

Helpful strategies

Grieving is a challenging experience. Even with the best support and coping mechanisms, it can still be difficult to navigate.

However, there are various tools and strategies that can be helpful during the grieving process. Here are some ideas that may be beneficial.

1. Stay connected with others

Healthy relationships support good mental health during grieving. Social isolation and poor relationships are risk factors for depression and anxiety.

Some people find sharing personal information a natural and easy thing to do. Others might need support from a health professional or community group to feel comfortable opening up.

Good mental health is linked to having supportive people in your network. This means you can relax and have fun, as well as find emotional support in difficult times. 

Things you can do to be more socially active:

• Stay in touch with friends and family by calling them or arranging to meet up.
• Consider reaching out to acquaintances or neighbours if you're feeling lonely. 
• Go to local events or markets to meet new people and connect with your community.
• Be friendly and open to chatting with strangers when out and about.

2. Eat a balanced diet

A well-balanced diet is essential as you withstand the stress associated with grieving. That means eating plenty of vegetables, fruits, and lean proteins, and drinking plenty of water. If your appetite is low, try eating small portions more frequently.

3. Get enough sleep

Lack of sleep is a common issue during the grieving process. However, it's crucial to try and maintain a consistent sleep schedule.

Aim for the same amount of sleep as before your loss, and establish a regular bedtime and wake-up time. 

Need tips for getting a better night's sleep? Consider developing a relaxing bedtime routine such as taking a warm bath or drinking a calming tea. This can help signal to your brain and body that it's time to wind down and sleep.

4. Exercise regularly

Exercise can help manage stress, anxiety, and depression from grief. These can be just as detrimental to your health as physical ailments and injuries. Maintaining positive mental health is important. 

Exercising with a friend or loved one can provide added motivation and accountability. It can also offer a social connection and a chance to talk about your feelings and experiences.

Where to find help

If you need more information, get in touch with one of our helpful team on 1800 951 971.

For bereavement support, you can reach out to the Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement on 1800 22 22 00.

References

Kübler-Ross, E., & Kessler, D. (2014). On grief & grieving: Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss. New York, NY: Scribner. ISBN 978-1476775555.

Medicare Mental Health. (n.d.). Connecting with others. https://www.headtohealth.gov.au/living-well/connecting-with-others 

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